What do you regret not saying?
Inspired by Frank Warren's 'PostSecret', I am an Arts student working on a project and I'm looking for anonymous regrets.
To submit yours, please leave a comment below.
Thank you.
Update: thanks so much for your regrets so far, I've made small 'PostSecret' style postcards (using some of your submitted regrets) to help inspire me in preparation of the final outcome of my project. You can see them below.
I regret I letting you destroy me. I regret that i thought I needed you. I will never regret you, but I regret falling for you when I knew you would always leave me for her.
ReplyDeleteI regret I let myself sink back into my depression, suicidal tendancies, and my anorexia when you left.
But I don't regret admitting I could survive without you, getting help after you left, and finally finding God again.
I regret that I can't even tell you how much better I am doing.
...I regret that I still think about you all the time and that I still love you because I know I don't cross your mind at all.
female 19.
1. I regret not sitting down and spending more time with an old high school friend when I saw him at the library, because even though we hadn't seen each other in awhile and we weren't the best of friends, I will always wonder if doing that would have changed anything--if he would have realized that at least one person cared, and he wouldn't have killed himself. Logically, I know that there were probably so many things going on with him that even if I had talked to him more, he still would have committed suicide, but it doesn't mean I will ever stop wondering if I could have made a difference.
ReplyDelete2. When my high school best friend called and asked me if I was mad at her after we got into an argument, I would have been honest and said yes. It could have saved the friendship, and six years later, I still miss her and wish we were still friends.
Female/24
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I regret not telling her that I needed her, that she was my best friend and I needed to talk to her. I wish I had called and said I was sorry and saved the friendship.
ReplyDelete2. I also regret letting what they say effect me. I regret cutting myself because of what they were saying to me. I wish I hadn't let their words crush my self esteem.
female/14 years old
"No you can't have a photo of my bum!"
ReplyDeleteBut to look on the bright side, at least it's a nice bum.
i regret saying i hate you and completely breaking u down so that it still affects u today
ReplyDeleteI regret that no matter what I do, it's never good enough. I try so hard at everything I do, for it to be discarded without a second glance.
ReplyDeleteI regret that I have not once, felt truly like a beautiful person. Inside or out.
I regret that I'm going through with a university course, that I don't want to do, all on an attempt to make you proud of me.
I regret that I've let past relationships scar me so much that when you finally told me you loved me, I said "really?" and pretty much called you a liar.
I regret that not one of my friends has seen the 'real' me, for fear that they won't like me anymore.
I regret that I hate going shopping for new clothes even when I need them because I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror and see every flaw.
I regret saying, "sure we can still be friends," after I knew you were teasing me behind my back and now I'm so paranoid that you still are, that when I see any of you I keep my arms folded across my stomach.
I regret that I've let you hurt me so many times that now, whenever someone invites me out to movies or a party etc, I say "sorry, I have to finish my assignment first," when really, I feel like now I'd rather sit by myself, and play computer games.
And lastly... I regret that I have this many regrets, and I'm only twenty years old.
I regret not telling the truth and pretending I've forgiven you for neglecting and abusing me & my siblings as a children, even though you never even apologized or acknowledged it in the first place.
ReplyDeletei regret not telling more people how beautiful they are because every one truly is and no matter what anyone says you should know you are beautiful and special
ReplyDeletei regret not punching my ex in the face when he would mind me talking to other guys and calling other guys dickheads because now hes the dickhad talking to other girls who have boyfriends and trying to get with them what a dickhead. i seriously should've punched him in the face
ReplyDeletei regret not slapping my friend when i saw guys walking all over her and her letting them do whatever they want to her. and even though we all tell her she's so weak i should ve just slapped her straight from the start
ReplyDeletei regret accusing people before i ask for the whole story and swearing and them when it wasnt even their fault
ReplyDeletei regret not saying how i really feel, everytime we're alone
ReplyDeletei regret keeping it a secret every single day,
i regret not telling you what you mean to me even though theres been plenty of 'right times',
but most of all i would regret losing you as my best friend, so i don't say anything at all.
I regret not telling my brother how much he meant to me, and how proud I was of him. It had never occurred to any of us that he would die so young and so brutally. I regret not making the most of the short time we had, and for losing touch so much during our teenage years. We never got to know eachother as 'grown ups'.
ReplyDelete"Did you say it? I love you. I don't ever want to live without you. You changed my life. Did you say it? Make a plan, set a goal, work towards it. But every now and then, look around, drink it in. Cause this is it. It might all be gone tomorrow"
ReplyDelete-My favourite quote. I regret not living by it as much as I should. I regret not saying that everyday to the people I love, the people I couldn't live without, the people who have changed my life. Because it really is true. My whole life might really all be gone tomorrow...
f/18
p.s to the blog creator. I wish you the best of luck with this project, and hope you include my regret.
ReplyDeleteI regret not making the most of the time we had together, I regret getting angry at you over small things, I regret not showing you how much I really love you
ReplyDeleteBut most of all I regret that now I will never have the chance to be with you again.
I regret not saying that I love you. You understand me and I can be myself around you. I am so scared of rejection because I'm not good enough for you. But I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. I hope one day you might see that.
ReplyDeleteI regret not telling myself to be myself. I regret caring about what you all told me. I regret ever doubting myself. I regret ever listening to any of you. And for you... I regret anything you may have said, because you were so so wrong. And one thing I'll never regret is seeing the looks on all of your faces when you finally see that.
ReplyDeleteI regret not saying 'yes' when a girl I liked approached me in the playground at school. I was too afraid I was being set-up to be humiliated and carried that fear for far too long.
ReplyDeletei regret not telling you that you are a lying, manipulating, attention-seeking bitch.
ReplyDeletei regret trying to help you.
but most of all i regret how cowardly i am, becuase i still have a chance to tell you.
i regret not telling you that you are a lying, manipulating, attention-seeking bitch.
ReplyDeletei regret trying to help you.
but most of all i regret how cowardly i am, becuase i still have a chance to tell you.
I regret not saying enough nice things to the people that I care about.
ReplyDeleteI regret not saying "No thanks, I think I'll decide what I will do with my life for myself".
I regret not saying much to my brother, who unfortunately took his own life rather unexpectedly.
But most of all...
I regret that a lot of posters are missing the point and are posting all sorts of regrets that have nothing to do with not saying anything.
I regret every time I regret something. We shouldnt regret what we do, anything worth regretting will make you stronger in the long run.
ReplyDeleteI will do anything I can to make him happy and despite what he does to me I know I will never regret that.
I regret not telling him how much i like him and then just shutting up, and letting things fall into place
ReplyDeleteI regret not saying sorry before i had the chance :/ now we can never be freinds all becuase of me
ReplyDeleteI regret not saying the truth and lieing to you just because my freinds wanted me too i regret bullying you and i hate myself for what i did :(
ReplyDeleteI regret saying a secret that wasant mine to tell and having to live with it :(
ReplyDeleteI regret lying to him. I regret telling him I love him, even though I knew what was going to happen in the end. I regret not tellin him ealier. I regret getting too close to him.
ReplyDeleteBut I do not regret talking to him. I don't regret letting him see the real me.
I love him, that I don't regret.
I just regret the fact that I hurt him in so, so many ways.
And I regret the fact that he will never see this, and he will not know how much I regret letting myself lie to him.
I know if I didn't post here I might regret what I don't say, so I am not regretting this
ReplyDeleteTo people I know and people I once knew
I regret not trying to make you my friend
I regret not telling you the things I liked about you.
I regret not explaining myself fully, because I was afraid that you wouldn't understand or would look down or me or despise me, or use it against me
I regret making my decisions sound rational, instead of saying it how I felt and saw it
I regret pretending that everythign is okay, and every time I don't have a long talk with you about where things really stand, when I should
I regret not demanding more earlier
I regreet all the times I saw a great idea and didn't participate
or something fun and walked on by
I regret not saying this is special or original
I regret not telling you how much I appreciate you
I regret not knowing the words, and not knowing how to find them.
Some days, life is just too good to be true.
ReplyDeleteI regret the days that follow. They bring pull us back down to earth and reality.
I try not to regret, its life you have just got to accept. Its how I keep living....
ReplyDeleteI regret every time someone looks my way, I regret not being able to over come 'this' I regret starting it all.
ReplyDeleteI regret not going to visit my dad everyday in hospital. I regret being scarred to go in the ward and see him because he got so thin.
ReplyDeleteI regret not saying NO! more often...
ReplyDelete- No, I'd like to wait until I know you better before we have sex.
- No! I would rather you used a condom (even though I'm on the pill)
- NO! get OUT of my room you fucking pervert!(to my friends Dad)
I regret not telling him, that meeting him was the most powerful experience I've ever had of meeting someone. That it was like being knocked over by a demolition ball and nothing has been the same since. That he is the most gorgeous guy I have ever met and he has such a lovely essence that I just want to sit in his presence all the time. His eyes are amazing and the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen too. I opened up like a flower when we met and for the first time in my life felt that I wanted to have a baby..the thought of him making me pregnant and our creating a child together was overwhelming and crazy.....
ReplyDeleteThat when he touched my hand I felt an electric current move through me (and that was just my hand..(imagine what real physical contact would be like)...no-one has made me feel that overcome with arousal just from touching my hand....
i didnt tell him and I left.....
I had to leave because wanting him would only bring me pain.
But what would he have said if I'd had the courage to explain that I left because of how I feel.....
i regret not saying, actually i am angry,
ReplyDeletebecause if i had that anger would have left me, but it didnt, and now i dont know you.
I regret not telling Georgina Wakeford to take her filthy hands off of my big sister when she shoved her in a one way argument at the bus stop. I was only 13 at the time, but I've never felt like such a let down - I know she would've done it for me.
ReplyDeleteI regret not going to school to see that beautiful face before you were killed that night. I will always think "what if?"
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I regret not getting the chance to know him and see who he really was. I regret the fact that I did not give him the time of day and now he has moved on.